ENTERTAINING, PROVOCATIVE EXCERPT: “The Best Way to Keep a Man is to Let Him Go. . .”

In this book, I state that, based on MY experiences and observations, “80% of the success of a relationship rests on the shoulders of the woman.” The book explains why.

Here’s an entertaining, provocative excerpt from

“The Best Way to Keep a Man is to Let Him Go (among other things)”

REMEMBER THAT YOU HAVE FAULTS, TOO

What is a “fault”? Well, according to The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language, a “fault” is “Something that prevents perfection.”

When women get together, if the discussion turns to male/female relationships and men’s behavior and faults (and it almost always does), I have never heard a woman make any statement relative to the fact that her man has to put up with her faults. From listening to women, you’d think that females don’t have faults.

Just as women can say, “He would be perfect if it wasn’t for this, and this, and this, and this,” obviously, men can say, “She would be perfect if it wasn’t for this, and this, and this, and this.” We all have faults that can range from slightly funny to downright hilarious, as well as slightly irritating to nearly intolerable.

Many women could learn more about themselves if they would ask their men what they (the men) see as their (the women’s) worse faults. Typically, we can’t clearly see our own. Men or women. It’s all about tolerance and communication—if either of you can’t take living with the other’s faults, you’ve got to talk about it. But remember—it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.

And you have to give specific examples. I always say that we are obligated to tell each other what we see that we think is not right or not healthy for the person or the relationship. The other person is obligated to listen carefully. But, we have to remember that no one is obligated to change. Many times the behavior will improve because you both are aware and watching. But you can’t get mad if no change is made. You did your part; the rest is up to the other person.

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Two AWESOME Forewords for “THE VISION. . .”

the-vision-final-cover-031914Here’s what a former prosecuting attorney for juveniles and a Ph.D. college English professor had to say in their forewords for my book,

“THE VISION: Telling Kids That They Can Make the World a Better Place”

FOREWORD #1
The Vision is crafted in such a way that it is the perfect tool for young children to learn about the value of education and for African-American children to briefly witness the struggles of their ancestors in obtaining an education.

The worksheets in the book are a wonderful way to get children to recognize, think about, and discuss the opportunities available to them both educationally and socially. Having the children create goals and sign contracts is a wonderful idea to stimulate enthusiasm and create a sense of accomplishment.

As a juvenile court prosecutor, I saw first-hand how many kids took for granted the opportunities they had to get an education. I think every classroom and courtroom dealing with young children should make The Vision required reading.

Keisha L. Glenn
Assistant Prosecuting Attorney
Wayne County, Michigan

FOREWORD #2
For late elementary and middle-school children, The Vision is all about discovering who they are and how they can make this world a better place. For teachers, The Vision serves as an interactive classroom guide where students examine themselves and the world as they were, as they are and as they want to be. Best of all, The Vision calls for positive action – and leads the way as children set and move toward their own goals.

Immediately, The Vision provides the script for a brief play about a young boy and a young girl, both slaves, whispering in the barn on a southern plantation in 1855. The boy has just been beaten for wanting to learn to read and write. The girl repeats her sister’s visions of the future, a place where all boys and girls in America have an opportunity to learn to read and write as they develop their own skills and enrich the world. Based on her sister’s visions of the future, the slave girl draws the boy (and the audience) into hope and new possibilities for the future.

The Vision provides fun, practical activities that structure and stimulate critical dialog. The creative teacher can use the tools and exercises in this book for a student’s individual self-exploration, for large and small group discussions, for teacher and student interaction and for student discussions with others outside the classroom. In this workbook, students ask questions, record and discuss responses, evaluate themselves, seek feedback, recognize their value and begin to improve themselves and the world.

Motivational home and school contracts encourage students to commit to goals. Students can track and evaluate their own performance. Students will recognize that they are the important people who can continue to learn and grow as they shape themselves and the future.

Carol Carpenter, Ed.D.
Livonia, MI

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“THE VISION: Telling Kids That They Can Make the World a Better Place” is available at GoodShortBooks.com and at Amazon.com for $9.99 (48 pages; ages 8 to 16).

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Books for Christmas –or Anytime!

If you’re going to buy gifts for Christmas this year, books make GREAT gifts, especially for kids!!

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“THE LIMITLESS GOLDEN RULE: 21 Ways to Use the Golden Rule In Your Life” – 43 pages, $7.99

“THE VISION: Telling Kids That They Can Make the World a Better Place” – 48 pages, $9.99

“My 15 Dogs: A 55-Year Journey of Love” – 64 pages, $7.99

“The Best Way to Keep a Man is to Let Him Go (among other things)” – 64 pages, $9.99

“Dear Bully: A Collection of Poems about Bullying” – 52 pages, $7.99

“Mother’s Dozen: An Easy Recipe for Raising GREAT Kids” – 48 pages, $7.99.  Also available in Spanish!

“Line of Serenity” – 167 pages, $12.99

“Jette Black and Her Seven Friends” – 28 pages, $9.99

“My Simple Quotes to Live By” – 90 pages, $7.99

“A Breast Cancer Journey to GREATER Joy: Taking the fear and mystery out of a breast cancer diagnosis” – 60 pages, $12.99

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GREAT BOOK REVIEWS!!

It’s not THAT difficult to make a happy, loving, peaceful relationship!!

On June 3, 2016, Pap and I celebrated our 49th wedding anniversary!! We’ve been together for 59 years!!

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One person, Jeryl Lynne Cox, asked me when I was going to write the book. Well, the book has been out for quite a while. It’s on sale (10% off) on Amazon. It’s only 64 pages, including 21 pages of recipes, and the title is:

“The Best Way to Keep a Man is to Let Him Go (among other things)”

I wrote it because I wanted to share what I had learned. I wrote it for women 18 years and older. I wrote it because I saw so many toxic relationships that could be fixed if BOTH partners wanted it to be fixed. I wrote it because I know that the world is built on relationships, and, if you have a solid relationship, it can withstand just about anything—barring physical abuse!! I wrote it because I want children to see the power of love, kindness, forgiveness, and peace in their homes.

Here’s what Arlonial Stafford said about this book, which she read on June 14, 2016:
“Ladies (and gentlemen), I’ve had the pleasure of knowing the author of this book for many years. This book is just one of her many written marvels. This book is short (64 pages), easy to read and to the point! This is one of the best books I’ve EVER read. I finished it and turned it over and started all over! That’s how good it is! Thank u Joyce Fields for sharing your wisdom. Her books are sold on Amazon.com or her website goodshortbooks.com.”
Then, she told her BFF, Phyllis Beasley-Cobb, about the book. Phyllis has been married for more than 20 years, and she read the book on June 15, 2016! Here’s what she had to say:
“When you told me about this book I was on my way to the doctor’s office. I downloaded it onto my Kindle sat there and read the whole book! (Only scanned thru the recipes) Now I don’t know if that says something about how long my wait was or if it was just that easy and to the point to read. Nevertheless it made me realize I have some work to do in my relationship. Thank you BFF for referring and thank you too Joyce Fields for sharing.”
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Katherine said:  “This was an excellent book!!!! Short and sweet straight to the point….I could not put this book down. I would definitely recommend. Lots of valuable information I will use to hopefully keep my relationship. I especially loved the recipes in the end.”
Nisha said:  “While having an inside scoop, I have read this book carefully. I have not only laughed, paused in AWE, and tried the recipes to help me “Keep My Man!” Pap and Joyce are truly “ONE OF A KIND”…and the two shall be one. I recommend this book to my sisters and I have shared it with my six-teen year old to help aid her fair weathers relationships. This short-book should be Featured on the next Steve Harvey show, right next to TLLALM. Thank you, Mrs. J for being the voice of the wise (older) woman in my life.”
Milene said:  “Oh My Goodness! I ❤ ❤ ❤ this book. I was going though a relationship in where I was LEARNING that “The best way to keep a man is to let him go” is the ONLY way it will work. This book was literally an instruction manual and I was reading it while going through it. I will read it again and again. Thank you Joyce & Pap for all of your love & inspiration, and also for helping me learn & grow while being AWARE its happening, which made ALL the difference ❤ you :-)”
Ana said:  “I loved this book, great insight on a man’s mind and into a great relationship. It is written in a very reader friendly way, easy to understand and fun to read with little whimsical jokes and anecdotes. Fully recommended for both single and committed ladies that want a meaningful relationship :)”
Get your copy soon, even if you think you have a GREAT relationship. It’s a good read!!
And it makes an excellent addition to a bridal shower gift!!
It’s available here: https://goo.gl/3HBe7D and at GoodShortBooks.com.
Contact me at goodshortbooks@yahoo.com.
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BOSS LOVE!!

It’s not THAT difficult to make a happy, loving, peaceful relationship!!

On Friday, June 3, 2016, we celebrated our 49th wedding anniversary!! We’ve been together for 59 years (since we were 13 years old)!!

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Pap’s 16th birthday (I was 15) – 9/22/1959

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Our wedding day – 6/3/1967

One person, Jeryl Lynne Cox, asked me when I was going to write the book. Well, the book has been out for quite a while. It’s on sale (10% off) on Amazon. It’s only 64 pages, and that includes 21 pages of recipes, and the title is:

“The Best Way to Keep a Man is to Let Him Go (among other things)”

I wrote it because I wanted to share what I had learned. I wrote it for women 18 years and older. I wrote it because I saw so many toxic relationships that could be fixed if BOTH partners wanted it to be fixed. I wrote it because I know that the world is built on relationships, and, if you have a solid relationship, it can withstand just about anything—barring physical abuse!! I wrote it because I want children to see the power of love, kindness, forgiveness, and peace in their homes.

Rasul Griffin (a MAN who has read it) calls the book “a masterpiece.”

 

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Pap’s 50th birthday – 9/22/1993

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Pap’s 65th birthday – 9/22/2008

 

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My 72nd birthday – 2/4/2016

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Our 49th anniversary – 6/3/2016

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Read the preview and order today!!  Makes a GREAT addition to a bridal shower gift!!  They’ll BOTH thank you!!

Here’s the Amazon link: http://goo.gl/pDLCl0.

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BLACK HISTORY: Edward A. Bouchet – March 6, 2016

Black History: Edward A. Bouchet, First African American Ph.D.
Edward Alexander Bouchet (1852-1918) graduated as valedictorian of the Hopkins Grammar School class of 1870.

He was the first African American to graduate from Yale in 1874. (He earned his bachelor’s degree with highest honors.)  He was also the first African American to be elected to Phi Beta Kappa at Yale and the first African American to earn a doctorate from an American university when he earned a Ph.D. in physics in 1876.  His doctoral dissertation was titled, “Measuring Refractive Indices.”

Bouchet was also among 20 Americans (of any race) to receive a Ph.D. in physics and was the sixth to earn a Ph.D. in physics from Yale.

After graduation, Dr. Bouchet’s demonstrated brilliance and credentials did not afford him the opportunities (such as positions in research, or at top universities) typically available to people of his unusually high level of education—undoubtedly due to racism.  He spent the rest of his life as a well-respected teacher.

He taught chemistry and physics for many years at the Institute for Colored Youth, a Quaker institution in Philadelphia.  Later on, Dr. Bouchet taught at St. Paul’s Normal and Industrial School in Virginia, served as principal of Lincoln High School in Galipolis, Ohio, and was a professor at Bishop College in Marshall, Texas.  He also held the position of business manager for a hospital in St. Louis and worked for a short time as a U.S. Customs Service inspector.   He retired from college teaching in 1916 and lived in New Haven for the last two years of his life.

He never married and had no children.

A former student of Dr. Bouchet’s described him this way:  “…He was a fine Christian gentleman, a consummate scholar, one who seemed very knowledgeable in all areas and yet was extremely modest and a person who set a wonderful example of politeness and graciousness for the community. …Certainly it is impossible to assess the far-reaching influence of Dr. Bouchet upon the hundreds of persons whose lives he touched.”

Each year, the American Physical Society bestows the Edward A. Bouchet Award  upon an African American, Hispanic American or Native American physicist who has made remarkable contributions to physics.  The Edward Bouchet Abdus Salam Institute was founded in 1988 by the late Nobel Laureate, Professor Abdus Salam under the direction of the founding Chairman Charles S. Brown.  In 2005, Yale and Howard Universities founded the Edward A. Bouchet Graduate Honor Society.

The 2016 Edward A. Bouchet Award recipient was Pablo Laguna, Georgia Institute of Technology.

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MOVING THROUGH DARKNESS – February 28, 2016

Moving Through Darkness. . .The Places We Go

~ Author unknown
Often it takes something major to wake us up, to shake us loose from our ego’s grip as it struggles to maintain an illusion of control.

In life, most of us want things to go to the places we have envisioned ourselves going. We have plans and visions, some of them divinely inspired, that we want to see through to completion. We want to be happy, successful, and healthy, all of which are perfectly natural and perfectly human. So, when life takes us to places we didn’t consciously want to go, we often feel as if something has gone wrong, or we must have made a mistake somewhere along the line, or any number of other disheartening possibilities. This is just life’s way of taking us to a place we need to go for reasons that go deeper than our own ability to reason. These hard knocks and trials are designed to shed light on our unconscious workings and deepen our experience of reality.

Often it takes something major to wake us up, to shake us loose from our ego’s grip as it struggles to maintain an illusion of control. It is loss of control more than anything else that humbles us and enables us to see the big picture. It reminds us that the key to the universe lies in what we do not know, and what we do know is a small fraction of the great mystery in which we live. This awareness softens and lightens us, as we release our resistance to what is.

Another gift gleaned from going to these seemingly undesirable places is that, in our response to difficulty, we can see all the patterns and unresolved emotional baggage that stand in the way of our unconditional joyfulness. Joy exists within us independently of whether things go our way or not. And when we don’t feel it, we can trust that we will find it if we are willing to surrender to the situation, moving through it as we move through our difficult feelings.

We can take our inspiration from any fairy tale that finds its central character lost in a dark wood, frightened and alone. We know that the journey through the wood provides its own kind of beauty and richness.

On the other side, we will emerge transformed, lighter and brighter, braver and more confident, for having moved through that darkness.

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