Reviews for “The Best Way to Keep a Man is to Let Him Go (among other things)” – May 16, 2015

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Here’s what people are saying about “The Best Way to Keep a Man is to Let Him Go (among other things)” –

(NOTE:  The first four reviews shown below currently appear on  All the others were posted BEFORE I changed the book’s cover and lost them.  Thank goodness I had already copied and saved them in a separate document!)

Nisha says. . .
“While having an inside scoop, I have read this book carefully. I have not only laughed, paused in AWE, and tried the recipes to help me “Keep My Man!” Pap and Joyce are truly “ONE OF A KIND”…and the two shall be one. I recommend this book to my sisters and I have shared it with my six-teen year old to help aid her fair weathers relationships. This short-book should be Featured on the next Steve Harvey show, right next to TLLALM. Thank you, Mrs. J for being the voice of the wise (older) woman in my life.”

Katherine says. . .
“This was an excellent book!!!! Short and sweet straight to the point….I could not put this book down. I would definitely recommend. Lots of valuable information I will use to hopefully keep my relationship. I especially loved the recipes in the end.”

Milene says. . .
“Oh My Goodness! I love, love, love this book. I was going though a relationship in where I was LEARNING that “The best way to keep a man is to let him go” is the ONLY way it will work. This book was literally an instruction manual and I was reading it while going through it. I will read it again and again. Thank you Joyce & Pap for all of your love & inspiration, and also for helping me learn & grow while being AWARE its happening, which made ALL the difference.”

Ana says. . .
“I loved this book, great insight on a man’s mind and into a great relationship. It is written in a very reader friendly way, easy to understand and fun to read with little whimsical jokes and anecdotes. Fully recommended for both single and committed ladies that want a meaningful relationship :)”

Rasul says. . . (Rasul is a MAN!)
“This is the best relationship book I have read all year!”

Dorian says. . .(Dorian is also a MAN!)
“I liked the book. Really just common sense, old school ideas, the way people DON’T think anymore. We have think in a circle and like Mr. Rogers said “think of all the possibilities “. And if you MEAN TO BE MARRIED there are some things you just DON”T DO.”

Anita says. . .
“Wonderful Reading!! Bravo!! This book gives terrific insight into the complex mechanisms involved in developing and maintaining a healthy, long-lasting relationship between a man and a woman. If all of the good, sound advice is followed, one soon realizes that, in reality, there ARE NO complex mechanisms involved! This book was enjoyable and filled with rock-solid tips that I will be utilizing. I highly recommend this book to every woman (young and not so young. The recipes at the back of the book sound great, too!”

Niquee says. . .
“I definitely enjoyed this book. We get so caught up in movies, romance novels, etc. that we forget what really makes a relationship work! Not that those romantic things we see & read don’t ever happen, but this book really lays out clearly what we as women need to do to be successful at relationships. And “let him go” doesn’t mean break up with him… it means allow him freedom – don’t control him, don’t freak out if you don’t know exactly where he is all the time, don’t try so hard to change him. Allow your man to be himself! Make coming home worth it! And of course when you help promote this peaceful kind of existence, he will make you happy too! ***The recipes at the end of the book are also amazing! Joyce is quite the woman!”

Kortnie says. . .
“This is an excellent short book and a must read. A wonderful variety of yummy recipes. Great tips on how to keep a good man. And a great gift for any occasion.”

Rosa said. . .
“FANTASTIC READ!! Boy did I need this book! It has already helped me to improve my relationship with my man. He said “Thank you, Joyce Fields!”

Patricia says. . .
“This book was great!! What I certainly took from this book, was life lessons that I was taught from my mother growing up. And I’ve been married for 40 years to the same man. I recommend it to all of my friends, any woman single or married who are struggling to keep their relationship on track and in a good place. Mama never did say it would be easy it takes a lot of hard work but also so rewarding. Joyce, you have said it best because you are the example. Wonderful Job!!”

Lisa says. . .
“Practical Relationship Guide…and Story of Love!!” I enjoyed reading this entire book because it offers a rare perspective on relationships, from a woman who has been in a relationship for many, many years. Any woman, at any stage of her life or relationship can read this book and take away something important to think about. Thank you”

Chelle says. . .
“Full Of Wisdom. This book was really great. It’s full of simple wisdom that you can carry with you each day. And it’s a quick read, so you can pick it up and easily re-read chapters when you feel like you need a refresher. It also has excellent recipes (extra bonus).”

Ava says. . .
“Great Advice on How to Maintain A Long & Loving Relatonship!” Advice you can take to heart from someone who has experienced more than 40 years of wedded bliss! There are some wonderful recipes that the author shares with the reader at the end of this book! I’ve tried some of them and they are not only delicious but easy to make!”

Eleanor says. . .
“A Wealth of Information. This book is simply AWESOME!!! :o)
The relationship advice and experience offered from the author, Joyce Fields, is incredible. I especially enjoyed her “no-nonsense” and sometimes humorous approach to real-life relationship issues. And who better to get such a “wealth of information” from other than a woman who has experienced it and lived it for 42 years! I would encourage any woman, single or married, to read this book…you certainly won’t be disappointed. Thank you Joyce for sharing some of your life and experiences with all of us & thanks for those recipes!!! :o)”

Lena says. . .
“Insightful and Helpful. This is a very insightful book into the relationship between a man and a woman and the bond that can be made stronger when you have the right tools and attitude for success. And this book will definitely give you some of those tools and nuggets of advice to help you do just that. It is definitely worth reading and you will get a lot of good advice from it. I truly recommend it.”

Ruby says. . .
“EXCELLENT **************** – This is the one to read!” For anybody who is seriously committed to making their marriage work, this book will definitely open up your eyes. The best way to describe this book is simply “common sense”. “FAITH” also has a big part in understanding the book. Very easy to read, short and to the point!!! I send my sincere and deepest gratitude to the author, Joyce Fields. My marriage has been a lot stronger and my relationship with my husband has been even closer and I owe it all to you, your word of wisdom and, reading your book. You are my “Guardian Angel”!!! This book deserves a never ending star *). “

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FOUR (4) AWESOME FOREWORDS! ~ December 6, 2014

“A Breast Cancer Journey to GREATER Joy!  Taking the fear and mystery out of a breast cancer diagnosis!”

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60 pages; $12.99 – available at

Here are the four awesome forewords written by my doctors for this book:



It is my pleasure to write this foreword for Joyce Fields. Joyce has been on a breast cancer journey, not of her own choice, for the past several years. She is doing remarkably well and remains cancer free. Joyce has a wonderful attitude, great love and support from family and friends as well as outstanding support and treatment from extraordinary professionals, namely Dr. Stanley Tu (Internal Medicine), Dr. Dawn Hills (Surgery) and Dr. Helen Chen (Radiation Oncology). Joyce has taken charge of this cancer challenge and remains an inspiration to all of us. Her spirit shines through this wonderful memoir.

Mark V. McNamara, MD



Mrs. Fields’ memoir recounting her experience with cancer is an honest look at the trials and tribulations that cancer patients endure. Her battle with cancer has ended in success. She is doing very well. I am honored to have been part of the team of physicians that helped her through this tough part of her life. It has been a pleasure getting to know Mrs. Fields through the years. She has a great outlook on life and has taught me a thing or two about courage and positive thinking. I look forward to our visits in the office and being greeted with a great big smile and hug.

Stanley S. Tu, MD
Internal Medicine



I had the pleasure of caring for Joyce Fields during her radiation treatment in 2011. I recall her at that time being a woman with a uniquely positive attitude.

Joyce writes an extremely straightforward and easy-to-read book, with everything explained in lay terms. I believe that her personal recollection of the details of undergoing breast cancer treatment and the decision making involved offers great support to other patients because they are able to essentially relive her experience through reading this book.

Details regarding the emotions she went through, interactions with family members, scheduling appointments, reactions to big machines like radiation machines and PET/CT scanners are vividly recounted. Treatment involves visits to so many different physicians and undergoing so many tests.

Reading Joyce’s book ahead of time would greatly prepare patients regarding what to expect. Early-stage breast cancer is generally a highly-curable disease. However, the word “cancer” is extremely stressful, and Joyce takes the mystery out of treatment of early-stage breast cancer.

Anyone anxious following a diagnosis of early-stage breast cancer (and who isn’t?!) should read this book. It will greatly help them prepare for the road ahead.

Finally, having a positive attitude like Joyce’s is actually immensely helpful in meeting the challenges of breast cancer treatment among other life’s challenges.

Helen Chen, MD
Radiation Oncology



I have the privilege of writing a foreword for this account of one woman’s journey through the diagnosis and treatment of breast cancer. I was fortunate to have been the breast surgeon for Joyce Fields. Her positive attitude during and after surgery provided the optimum scenario for healing of both body and spirit. Through this book she provides a path of hope for women beginning a similar, unwelcome journey. I encourage them to find inspiration and hope through her example.

Dawn M. Hills, M.D.

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EXCERPT 2: “The Best Way to Keep a Man is to Let Him Go (among other things)”

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Check out this excerpt:


Romance novels and magazines taught us that men are knights in shining armor. We can expect them to be sensitive, romantic, suave, punctual, attentive, patient, unselfish, observant. A passage might go something like this:
Mary had spent the whole day preparing for Tom’s return from work. His shirts were washed and ironed, the house was clean, and dinner was ready. It was 5:22 when she heard Tom’s key in the door. He was always home before 6:00. She rushed to the door to greet him.

When he opened the door and saw her, his face lit up into a big, bright smile. He wrapped her in a tender embrace and kissed her passionately. When he let her go, she was heavenly breathless. “Hi, sweetheart. I’m home a little early. I hope that doesn’t upset your schedule. New dress? You look gorgeous! Man, I’m a lucky guy!! The house looks wonderful. What are you cooking? It smells delicious. I hope we’re having dinner by candlelight. You look even more beautiful in candlelight!”

That’s what we read, and that’s what we fantasized on.

Men don’t read romance novels or magazines. Most of them don’t have a clue about what’s in those pages. So, they don’t know how to act like that. And that can destroy a lot of fantasies!

Men don’t have “date-book” or “calendar” minds. They tend to forget anniversaries, appointments, birthdays (sometimes, even their own!), and other celebration-type events. As females, it would warm our hearts tremendously if they were more like us and remembered everything—if they were more like the romance novels and magazines told us they were. But that is usually not the case, so we have to brush off disappointment and keep on going. Of course, we can always remind them. (And then, later [before or after the date] remind them that we reminded them!)

Females can be tidy, prim, and proper to a fault. It’s not a federal offense because he takes off his underwear and leaves it on the floor, doesn’t put the top back on the toothpaste. As little girls, we learned that dirty underwear is supposed to be in the hamper or down the chute. Little boys learned it too, but most of them didn’t care or focus on that. As little girls, we learned that you’re supposed to put the top back on the toothpaste so that the exposed toothpaste doesn’t dry up. Little boys learned that too, but dried-up toothpaste didn’t bother them at all.

Our fantasy tells us that they’ll get better. They’ll become more like us and remember to do all the things we wish they would do. Reality contradicts that.

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EXCERPT – Mother’s Dozen: An Easy Recipe for Raising GREAT Kids!

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“Mother’s Dozen” is a handbook of excellence in raising children. It systematizes the rules passed from generation to generation
regarding preparing children for the world to come.

It involves tough love; it encompasses touchy-feely; it establishes fences that keep the wolf out and the sheep safe. It is common
sense, the most uncommon thing in the world, particularly in this present age of negative imaging and self-raised “rug rats.”

The quest is not for something “new,” but for something substantial.
It is here. Every line brings an “aha!” experience. The head nods
“yes.” The will prods action.

Well done, well done!

Rev. Cecil L. “Chip” Murray
First A.M.E. Church, Los Angeles


I’m very grateful to all the excellent teachers I had, especially my
mother, my aunts, and other female relatives, friends, and neighbors.

I was born in a time (1944) when raising children seemed to be the
most important responsibility females had. Their homes were run
with rules, order, and organization. They had strong, sound
philosophies that taught children to love, honor, and respect
themselves; thereby teaching the children to love, honor, and respect
others. They were on a mission: to teach their children to stand
proudly on their own two feet. Virtually all of them were excellent
teachers. I watched, I listened, and I learned.

When I gave birth to my son, I started using those same rules and
philosophies to raise him. To this day, I am frequently complimented,
especially by elders, on how well my son turned out.

I wanted to write this book because of the negative, unhealthy mother/child interactions I regularly see and hear in malls, supermarkets, schools, parks, stores—practically everywhere.

It’s not easy raising children, but, as mothers, we can do a lot to help
ourselves and our children.

Looking back, I think the most important “ingredients” can be put into
twelve categories:

1. Start from infancy
2. Manners
3. Love for learning
4. Responsibility
5. Rules, order, and organization
6. Independence
7. Spirituality (Higher Power)
8. Affection
9. Discipline/Self-Control
10. Feed interests
11. Obedience
12. Patience

Mother’s Dozen:  An Easy Recipe for Raising GREAT Kids! is available at – 48 pages; $7.99.  eBook is $2.99.


This book makes an excellent addition to a baby shower gift!!

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EXCERPT: “The Best Way to Keep a Man is to Let Him Go (among other things)”

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Here’s an excerpt:

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God put the onus on men that they must be willing to die for their women. So, I figured that, if I were a man, I would not be willing to die for a woman who could not show me that she was DEFINITELY in MY corner. In most long-term relationships where the couple is in their 70’s, or 80’s, or 90’s, the man seems content to sit back and relax and let his wife be the assertive one. Why? Probably because, in virtually all situations, she has proven that she will say and do the right thing. He knows that he can trust her judgment. That did not happen overnight. It also did not happen without a lot of tears shed by the female, a lot of unlearning undertaken by the female, a lot of “heated discussions,” and a lot of other stuff.

My cousins Millail and Henrietta Jackson were married for over 60 years (he has passed on). A young lady asked Henrietta for the secret to staying married that long. Henrietta replied, “You have to take a lot of s**t.” Amen!

In order for a relationship to last 25 or more years, the female has to be able to deal effectively with negative forces. Anybody can hang in
there when the forces are positive. What really counts is hanging in there when the forces are negative. That’s what strengthens the bond between a man and his woman. When the woman can do that, she shows her man that she is worth coming home to; she is worth his willingness to die for her.

One of the biggest negative forces is a negative female who nags too much, starts too many arguments, finds fault too much, etc. Would you want to be around someone who was constantly nagging or complaining? Probably not. So why inflict that on another person?


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My Simple Quotes to Live By – Week of July 20, 2014



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For “lower education,”–elementary school, middle school, and high school–it’s all free, or at least paid for by the taxes that we all pay.

But when it comes to college or “higher education,” that costs a bundle and can send a family into the “poor house.”

It stands to reason that, like “lower education,” “higher education” should also be free. All of society benefits when the entire population is well educated.

It lowers the level of ignorance. And, God knows, the world could sure use a lower level of ignorance!

“EDUCATION SHOULD BE FREE–IT PROVIDES BENEFITS TO ALL OF SOCIETY” – Another simple quote that you can live by!

My 70th birthday - February 4, 2014

My 70th birthday – February 4, 2014

“I write books that inspire people on their journey to make the world a better place.”

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My Simple Quotes to Live By – Week of June 29, 2014



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You often hear men speaking of what they consider to be the “perfect” woman.  She doesn’t exist.  It’s a figment of their imaginations.  Whatever woman a man gets, she will have faults, weaknesses, idiosyncrasies, etc.

You often hear women speaking of what they consider to be the “perfect” man.  He doesn’t exist.  It’s a figment of their imaginations.  Whatever man a woman gets, he will have faults, weaknesses, idiosyncrasies, etc.



My 70th birthday - February 4, 2014

My 70th birthday – February 4, 2014

“I write books that inspire people on their journey to make the world a better place.”

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