Spreading Good News (Post 604 – EXCERPTS FROM MY BOOKS: “Mother’s Dozen: An Easy Recipe for Raising GREAT Kids!”)

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CONSTANT QUOTE

 

 

IT’S BETTER TO DIE CHASING A DREAM NEVER CAUGHT THAN TO DIE NEVER HAVING CHASED THE DREAM.  ~ Joyce Fields

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DON’T EXPECT MORE FROM OTHERS THAN YOU DO FROM YOURSELF.

~ Joyce Fields

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TODAY’S BLOG

It’s Wednesday!!  Time for “Excerpts From My Books.”

Mother’s Dozen:  An Easy Recipe for Raising GREAT Kids!

by Joyce Fields

There is no cost for those things that help to develop children into decent human beings, starting with manners.

MANNERS
It’s terrible to see young children, teenagers, and grown folks who show a total lack of manners.  Like oil to an engine, manners help to make human relations run smoothly.  “Good morning,” “hello,” “please,” “thank you,” “excuse me,” “good night,” “good bye,” “yes, please,” and “no, thank you” are powerful words. You teach a child manners by being mannerable and polite to that child.

Many years ago, a family friend complained to me that his 15-year-old son would come downstairs every day and not say “good morning.”  I asked him if his son said “good morning” when he was two and three years old.  My question surprised him.  He looked at me in amazement and said that he never made that connection!  He didn’t realize that his son had not been taught to say “good morning.”

Birth to 24 months is a magic period in children’s development.  They’re like little sponges, soaking up everything.  If they learn manners at this stage, and those manners are practiced and reinforced, they will know how to be polite and mannerable throughout their lives.  Notice that I said “they will know how to be. . .” I didn’t say that they would be.

As any parent knows, your children can disappoint you, especially when it comes to showing their manners.  Many a mother has said to her child, “Where are your manners?”  As if to say, “I know I taught them to you, so what did you do with them?”

Manners are very important in my family.  We all help to teach the children manners. We can’t stand and won’t tolerate rudeness in our children.  And we start early—in the “magic period.”

At the start of each day, when I would pick up my newborn little Konto, I’d look at him, smile and say a happy “good morning,” followed by some lighthearted, animated, one-way conversation.

When he woke up from his naps, I’d greet him with a warm “hello,” followed by more lighthearted, animated, one-way conversation.  As he got older, I started on the other parts of manners.

I might ask him to put something in the garbage for me, “Please.”  When he did it, I would say, “Thank you.”  If I bumped into him or did something else that warranted it, I would say, “Excuse me.”

Every night, before he went to bed, I would kiss him and say, “Good night.”  When I dropped him off at his grandmother’s or at nursery school, I would kiss him and tell him “bye-bye” or “see you later.”  The rest of my family did the same things.  He was surrounded by people being polite to him.  Then, I started teaching him to be polite to others.

When I gave him something, I would tell him to say, “Thank you.”  When he asked for something, I would tell him to say, “Please.” I let him know that he was making a request, not a demand.  He did not have the power to make demands.

Realizing that good manners involve more than just “please,” “thank you,” etc., I got busy teaching him other facets of being polite, such as covering his mouth when he coughed or sneezed; if a person is reading, don’t read over their shoulder or otherwise share their reading material unless you’re invited to do so; don’t pick your nose, pass gas, or touch your private parts in the presence of others; don’t talk with your mouth full of food; don’t smack when you eat; when you call someone on the telephone, speak to the person who answers the phone—don’t just ask for your party; if you call a wrong number, don’t hang up in the person’s face—excuse yourself and explain that you called the wrong number; don’t go to bed without saying “good night” to those who are still awake; don’t answer a question that was asked of someone else; when you walk into a room or area in which others are present, the obligation is on you to speak first because you entered their space.  I covered these different facets as they came up or as I thought of them.

Good manners also demonstrate that you have respect for yourself and others.  Elders are an important part of those “others.”  My mother used to say, “If you live, you’re going to get older.”  Each of us should imagine ourselves at 70, 80, and 90 years old.  How would we want to be treated?

 

Mother’s Dozen makes an excellent addition to a baby shower gift!!  Or, if you know a new mother, order a copy for her!!  She’ll be glad you did!!

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~ Joyce Fields

 

ADDITIONAL OFFERINGS FROM JOYCE FIELDS

Joyce is an author who has written seven books.  If you enjoy this blog, you will, undoubtedly, enjoy all her books.  Her sister, Anita, is also an author.

BE INSPIRED!  You can read about and order their books AND order merchandise from their online store at this link (or click the “BE INSPIRED!” button above):

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SOME OF JOYCE’S FAVORITE BLOGS

I visit these blogs and leave comments regularly.  I think you will enjoy them all!

http://www.lenasledgeblog.com  Books, reviews, give-aways, interviews.

http://living4bliss.com  Believing Life Is Set up for Success (BLISS)

http://goss-coaching.com/author/gosscoaching  A professional writer and wellness coach helping people connect thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and action to create optimal health and a vibrant life.

http://www.thebirkineffect.com  Musings of a “want it all” 21st century woman

http://www.thesweetsensations.com  A baking, entertainment, and lifestyle blog.  Fantastic recipes and food photography, too!

http://www.pennilessparenting.com  A rich life on minimum wage.  Plus fabulous, healthful recipes!

http://www.rumpydog.com  I’m a dog with a unique perspective on human life.

http://www.davidkanigan.com/  Lead.Learn.Live.  David Kanigan:  Inspiration, Ideas & Information.

http://callingoftheheart.wordpress.com  Spirituality, Psychology, and Political.

http://www.petedenton.wordpress.com  Writer of short stories, Flash fiction, and some scripts.

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About Line of Serenity (Joyce Fields)

As a thought leader for today's generation, I choose to be part of the solution and am doing things that positively impact people's lives. In addition to being a happy, married (since 1967!) woman, sister, aunt, mother, grandmother, great grandmother, I have over 40 years' experience in "Corporate America": Stenographer, Secretary, Supervisor, Analyst, Office Manager, Executive Assistant. I am also a professional proofreader and the author of eight books (seven non-fiction; one children's fiction--http://www.GoodShortBooks.com).
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2 Responses to Spreading Good News (Post 604 – EXCERPTS FROM MY BOOKS: “Mother’s Dozen: An Easy Recipe for Raising GREAT Kids!”)

  1. Sandra says:

    This should be required reading for all parents. All of our children are adults and to this day they still say good night, good morning and won’t leave out of the house without letting us know and asking if we need anything.

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