In this book, I state that, based on MY experiences and observations, “80% of the success of a relationship rests on the shoulders of the woman.” The book explains why.
Here’s an entertaining, provocative excerpt from
“The Best Way to Keep a Man is to Let Him Go (among other things)”
REMEMBER THAT YOU HAVE FAULTS, TOO
What is a “fault”? Well, according to The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language, a “fault” is “Something that prevents perfection.”
When women get together, if the discussion turns to male/female relationships and men’s behavior and faults (and it almost always does), I have never heard a woman make any statement relative to the fact that her man has to put up with her faults. From listening to women, you’d think that females don’t have faults.
Just as women can say, “He would be perfect if it wasn’t for this, and this, and this, and this,” obviously, men can say, “She would be perfect if it wasn’t for this, and this, and this, and this.” We all have faults that can range from slightly funny to downright hilarious, as well as slightly irritating to nearly intolerable.
Many women could learn more about themselves if they would ask their men what they (the men) see as their (the women’s) worse faults. Typically, we can’t clearly see our own. Men or women. It’s all about tolerance and communication—if either of you can’t take living with the other’s faults, you’ve got to talk about it. But remember—it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.
And you have to give specific examples. I always say that we are obligated to tell each other what we see that we think is not right or not healthy for the person or the relationship. The other person is obligated to listen carefully. But, we have to remember that no one is obligated to change. Many times the behavior will improve because you both are aware and watching. But you can’t get mad if no change is made. You did your part; the rest is up to the other person.
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It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. Truer words have never been spoken. Our 41st anniversary is the end of June and we are still learning about each other. Time changes and so do we. One thing I have definitely learned is that the only person we can change is ourselves. Thank you for sharing this excerpt.
You’re welcome, Sandy!! You said you were going to get this for your two recently-wed daughters. Have you gifted it to them yet?